Falling in Love is Fiction

And I never once kissed my fiance. By choice. By agreement. And in fairness, I have to say it was a short two month engagement...separated by half the country.

(backyard, big yellow leaf tree, in the rain)
I think you choose to love. Being in love is action. Love is decision, commitment, effort, service, edifying, and worthwhile. And yes, spark matters. It's on the list. You can choose to ignore a spark or attraction if it exists with the wrong person for you, or at the wrong time.

We've been watching "Spooks" online. Unrequited love was the episode today (along with the MI-5 spy stuff). Two characters cared about each other, but never cross the line as co-workers. (Have I mentioned I was Johnny's boss when we met?) Good drama. So sad. (Johnny, chick-flick watcher and expert, reminds me that it is the same story as "Remains of the Day")Glad we chose to get married young.

We met 3 years before we got married. Two of those years we wrote letters to each other and were separated by a continent. While we were seriously dating we tried a 3 week experiment: no kissing, to see if our relationship was strong enough and would survive if we took the physical element out. It's hard to go backwards if you are exclusively dating. We still held hands and hugged good-bye and talked, lots.

Three weeks ended and we kissed again, and realized that we needed to stop again. We liked each other too much, and we were both trying to get ready to serve full-time missions.

Flash forward 2 years and 4 months: we kissed again over the alter, as a married couple.